If I could send a message to all men, it would be this. Don’t date, don’t talk to women, don’t even attempt to be anything more than friends with a woman if you are incapable of relinquishing your full heart. Don’t dangle a carrot in front of her, don’t use her in the hopes that you’ll figure it out – she’s not your therapist. Her heart is not a toy. It’s not FOR YOU if you can’t reciprocate with your full heart in return. Spare her the hoping that you’ll figure it out. The hoping you’ll change. The waiting. That’s not her job. It’s YOUR job to get your shit together, prepare yourself for a partner. For a full on wife. I have spent my entire adult life with men who haven’t done the work. It’s like I attract them. Bees to honey. Moths to a flame. Why? Do I…

I saw this on facebook the other day and it resonated so deeply with me. In all my years of loving a man, I have yet to meet a man who is committed to understanding how I need to be loved. I always felt like I was committed to learning the man I love, but I’ve realized that I hear, but don’t truly listen. I see, but I don’t understand. Now, I am committed to learning how to change my own way of loving. To truly learn and embrace love in all of its forms. From the quiet, confident love to the outspoken, anxious love. Love her. Through all of these phases. It will be worth it in the end. ~~~ “I had a male client communicate to me today: “she’s so hard. I want her to be softer. It pisses me off when she is so hard. What do…